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8th July 2014, 13:28 | #1 |
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LS thinks that family violence is OK and that people who think violent men should be held to account are ignorant.
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8th July 2014, 14:16 | #2 | |
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A similar kind of popular ignorance existed around the 50s when researchers were trying to convince people that young children needed love beyond being fed, kept warm and dry. Fortunately the research was sound and widely accepted, the most obvious evidence of that being the changes to our children's hospitals. Unfortunately the nature and volume of domestic violence is even harder for people to think about and accept it seems.
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8th July 2014, 14:18 | #3 |
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Lolspeed is sorry for being a man, but I say he has nothing to apologise for.
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8th July 2014, 14:25 | #6 | |
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8th July 2014, 14:40 | #7 |
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I wouldn't be able to in this context, this stuff is complex.
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8th July 2014, 16:04 | #9 | |
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verb 1. support or actively encourage (a cause, venture, etc.); further the progress of. Example 1 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJ6YGabx7xs -nsfw That, for starters. For further explanation - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4dPB9MVS8 |
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8th July 2014, 16:39 | #10 |
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You think sexist pop music videos are a big election issue?
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8th July 2014, 16:51 | #11 |
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Did you forget your question Ab?
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8th July 2014, 16:55 | #12 |
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It'd bake your noodle if the director of that clip and the creative team behind it turned out to be women, wouldn't it.
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8th July 2014, 16:55 | #13 |
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adonis's claim appears to be that the overwhelming majority of men promote family violence. His example of this is a music video by Robin Thicke, and this is all somehow related to David Cunliffe apologising for being a man during an election campaign.
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8th July 2014, 17:01 | #14 | |
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It's linked to Cuncliffe because he is bringing to awareness something that is usually hidden or ignored.
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8th July 2014, 17:10 | #15 |
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No, Cunliffe has a brain spasm and did what he always does - says whatever he thinks will make his audience like him more. Boy did he fuck that up.
But back on track: the subject at hand is family violence. Adonis replied that "it's not a small group of men who promote such behavior". I presume he's using the rhetorical device of "not small" to convey that it's large. OK, so adonis claims family violence is promoted by a large group of men. And his example supporting this is video of a song by Robin Thicke. And this is somehow an election issue. |
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In the meantime, I'm still baffled by this idea that I'm jointly culpable (along with every other male) of violence on women because Robin Thicke made a sexist song. I suppose I should apologise but it just wouldn't be sincere.
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8th July 2014, 17:29 | #17 |
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I apologise for Lightspeed being a man.
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I'm not saying that men are aware that they're promoting such behavior, but the fact is most men make sexist comments, and promote unhealthy levels of sexual objectification. Regardless of intent, most men contribute to a culture that communicates to abusers that their behavior is endorsed by their peers, and that they're just acting naturally, as all men would if it weren't for mitigating circumstances, consequences etc. Comments to the contrary are dismissed as being sourced from the weaker sex. ...and Ab, considering you're trying to make out that Cunliffe's comment was a "brain spasm", it pretty clearly is at least part of a wider election issue. You're trying to make out as though Cunliffe's comment shows he's not capable of leading. Key's "#notallmen" comment was a thoughtless, uneducated position, the kind of position I would expect from Key who has no talent for his current position beyond looking good for your typical, ignorant middle NZ'er. If this election comes down to catering to stupid people, I guess Key will probably win. But it also means that whoever Labour puts up would either have to be equally stupid, or risk losing. I'm hoping (possibly in vain), that there aren't enough stupid people out there. I'm probably being too optimistic. |
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8th July 2014, 17:32 | #19 |
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I feel that men are undervalued members of society and nothing that we have to give is valued by women and/or society.
Here is my evidence http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9PToOYitfs QED? |
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Being independent and strong and possessing her own sexuality, which she has complete control over, DESPITE the disparity between her means and the means of the men who seem to have control over fairly important assets when you're walking around the desert alone. I guess if you were an insecure, sexist Douche-bag this video might make you feel that men are undervalued members of society, but only if you were really, really, fucking stupid. ... and then you compare it to this, a song that has great lines like, "I know you want it", a line that's been used by rapists all over? "No more pretending", yeah, she's pretending not be interested, OR MAYBE SHE'S NOT PRETENDING AND YOU'RE JUST A D-BAG? ...and "I'll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two". Sure, 'cause woman just love bleeding from their anus. If this video was an isolated thing then maybe it wouldn't be worth mentioning, but it was a fucking number one hit, and whenever it's criticised people fucking LINE UP to say, "naaah, nothing wrong with it". How about actually listening to people? How about not dismissing people outright because they're woman? Or because the're speaking up for woman? Example #2 - some dickhead dismissing woman because DUH, WOMAN - Quote:
Of course such a comment just kinda gets brushed over in a place like this, where sexism is just, y'know, normal. Some degree if sexual objectification is fun and healthy, the AMOUNT that woman are objectified is not. |
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8th July 2014, 18:09 | #22 |
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FWIW, I get what you're saying, and agree to an extent. I don't agree however, that Cunliffe had this kind of complex thought process behind his "apology". Based on his history (and that of Labour), I have to agree with Ab - he said whatever he thought his current audience really wanted to hear. I don't really even hold that against him, he's just doing what almost all politicians do sooner or later. |
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8th July 2014, 20:05 | #27 |
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I think he's saying you sound like a crackpot because you're saying the kind of things that a crackpot would say. Perhaps you would find more traction on some conspiracy theorist forums where there are less lizard people disguised as normal posters.
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8th July 2014, 20:24 | #28 | |
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8th July 2014, 21:03 | #29 |
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You got 'em all whipped up adonis!
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8th July 2014, 21:05 | #30 | |
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Violence towards women is probably normal in NZ. Many things are normal though; being regularly drunk is both normal and extremely popular whereas playing lawn-bowls is normal but not very popular. I don't know how popular this form of violence is but I expect it's at the tiddlywinks end of normal. NZ society has voted to keep this sort of violence secret. Some are asking for a change here. Either way my family is not affected and I don't really see any evidence that those outside my family that I care about are affected either. Really I just don't care. |
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8th July 2014, 21:16 | #31 |
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I think Cuncliffe was apologising for the little bit of GT that lives inside all of us.
lolz lolz
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Why is it accepted that things like evolution and medicine need to be understood complexly, simplistic arguments opposing them holding no weight, but when it comes to understanding humans and how we live, how we impact and are impacted by each other, if it can't be understood simply it must be wrong? I wonder if it's because humans are really complex and to get by we have to make assumptions and stick to them. Understanding men's role in society is a natural progression from understanding a mother's role in raising a healthy child. When this was first put forward in an empirical manner, there was a lot of backlash: it was considered mother-blaming to suggest that if a child grew up to have poor behaviour and mental health that the mother had a role to play. But decades later it's well accepted a person's primary caregiver (whoever that might be) has a fundamental role in helping them develop healthy adult functioning. To avoid "mother-blaming" we look at the maternal environment that mother-child pair exists in, what is there to ensure there are sufficient resources available for the healthy development of the child? Here you hit hard against the reality of men's power and authority in society, how men get to shape society. Both the men in the home and the men who have power over the men at home (employers, authorities.) You really need to do a lot of ground work to really understand the dynamics at play here. For example you might point to many women in positions of power and authority now, but you need to understand how we are still under the sway of the values of the past where men factored heavily in deciding the direction our society takes. If anyone has a genuine interest in this, this is an accessible resource that draws directly from primary sources, it's a good introduction to the complexity of human life: Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love
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Interestingly, it's seems most 'comparatively conservative' people have a false axiom that only acknowledges the individual and their personal responsibility factors. Which I find illogical in the causal universe we operate in.
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i love the assumptions being made here. so youre saying that because i think cunliffes statement was pants on head retarded I must not care? and then you start talking about causality?
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9th July 2014, 11:56 | #36 |
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That wasn't what I was saying, I don't think f_t was specifically responding to you but rather the general theme of what's being discussed here.
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9th July 2014, 12:00 | #39 |
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It's interesting how LS suddenly became so "expert" in human psychology not long after the youtube Crash Course in psychology series started airing.
Can someone post a big air quotes emoticon or gif for me for that "expert" bit, thx
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