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Old 7th February 2019, 11:42     #79
Nich
 
Whether physical or verbal, an attack on a child would not go unchallenged in the right community. Her protective parenting style may be the result of a failure to trust and support one another. If the community is full of strangers, the child is not safe, be ever vigilant and make sure the child also learns to be afraid of others.

The village / cul-de-sac no longer raises the kids. I imagine if the community hasn't helped raising the kid by the time they are 4, the community doesn't get to tell her how to be a parent. This woman is being a parent on Nightmare difficulty.

A balance between chaos (play in the mud, talk to strangers, walk home from school alone) and order (never leave my sight, you're not allowed to do that, sit properly at the table). Chaos is rich in formative life experience and is exciting / risky, but too much to bear for some because the downside risk is unlikely but devastating (death, injury, disappearance). Order is predictable / boring but keeps the child safe and protected (coddled).

Sometimes just making sure a child reaches adulthood is good enough.
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